Do we really understand what “giving” is?

Many of us are raised to be giving, altruistic and even selfless. We are told the meek will inherit the earth and that we should put others before ourselves. So we grow up with a constant awareness that we should in some or other way be helping make the lives of others better and helping the “less fortunate ones in need”. As a result we may have a warped relationship with giving, helping out of a sense of duty or responsibility. Worse still, we might be giving so we don’t feel guilty. But is this really what it means to give?

 

As a pillar of growth, “giving” is not this traditional understanding of “giving” at all. 

 

For us, true giving is when you understand your true value, and what you give is in line with your value and in the process you will always receive in return. As you give, it will result in growth for you, as a person and in your value. 

 

In fact, we believe that many other ways of giving, especially the traditional sense that we must always put others first and selflessly give our time, effort or money is sacrifice. It is not giving. We believe that we weren’t given this life to sacrifice and make ourselves less, but to find our purpose and value and only then can we truly give and grow in the process.

 

Giving in this manner also serves as milestones on our path of personal growth. It will anchor us on our journey of becoming who we are supposed to be.

 

If you want to make a shift in your growth pattern, giving needs to be optimal, and in a specific direction - the reason you can give is because you receive more back through the act of giving. You only receive the value back that you need - not more than you need right now. 

 

Positive giving will activate a growth spiral. Give what is your value to give. In turn you will receive and grow. The more you grow, the more you will be able to give and then grow again in turn. It stimulates a growth pattern.

 

 

Giving just for the sake of giving, or to satisfy a societal norm, or to appease a feeling of guilt, can become an abuse system or sacrifice system, quite literally. The cells in your body respond to the info it receives from these systems. You become angry and stressed. Your act of giving will not energise you in the long term, you might feel a short sense of reprieve, in the long run, your body and state of mind will pay the price. 

 

In contrast, giving from your point of value will always be to your value. Then you can prosper in giving.

 

Choose wisely. There will always be people who want you to provide value to them - you need to ask yourself what value you will get from giving to them. This feels very contradictory to the ideas of selfless giving we were brought up with, but giving where or what you are not supposed to give is sacrifice. You will not grow from the act. It will drain your energy and your time. Think about it. The reason you don’t have time is because you give yourself and your value away to those who don’t give back the value that you need. 

 

Bringing consciousness and awareness into your giving practice will allow you to measure the results of your giving on your body and state of mind. Does it wear you down or does it feed you? Create points of measurement and use them as anchors on your journey. This brings a stronger awareness to always align with things that are to your value and to stop connecting with things that aren’t valuable to you. 

 

Ask yourself, this act that I’m planning to do - what will be the potential for growth for myself? The fact that I’ve given - what have I received back? Will it stimulate growth in me? In my cells? Is there potential for a new belief and new growth to happen? Trust your gut to know who to give to. You will always feel what is right and what is not for you. Your gut will always tell you where you put your value - you will be uneasy if you know you are giving your value where it should not be given. 

 

You will learn from those experiences. The stronger you become in yourself the more belief you will acquire in your gut feeling and you will learn to follow your gut instinct. Also, the more you know your value, the more you’ll know what to do and what not to do. 

 

It’s extremely important to be your optimal self because you become an antenna and you attract exactly what you want to have - you need to get yourself into the optimal state to attract what you want and nothing else. If you give to someone because you feel bad for them, imagine the consequences. You link yourself to that feeling of pity toward yourself too and you will receive that back. 

 

So what then is  the power of giving? 

 

If you understand how powerful giving is you will want to give. And in the process of giving you get stronger, and the persons receiving your gifts get stronger and give in return to you and to others. The growth is exponential. Everything becomes fulfilled and grows and the feeling of giving is passed on to the next person. Giving done well stimulates excitement in your cellular system and initiates a growth pattern, on a cellular level as well as in your life.  When you understand and experience this gift of giving, it will form anchors on your path of growth and will affirm that you are on the right path.